What Does Planning A Sustainable Wedding Mean?

Planning a sustainable wedding begins with the the mentality of wanting to avoid the consumerism that is the wedding industry. The process requires asking yourself and your loved one important questions with the goal of keeping you both grounded and to remain authentic to your core values. I decided to share some of the questions Cole and I have been asking ourselves during this process. And, since we are more than halfway until the big day, I wanted to share our engagement photos that I am so incredibly excited about to get a glimpse into our aesthetic! 

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at the end of this day, do you want to be left with piles of trash or recycled handmade goods that can be used again?

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Will you ever get to wear your wedding gown again?

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How was your gown made? why is it so expensive?

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Are there ways to find the decor through recycled good stores, online or at flea markets? 

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At the end of this day, did you create things that can be used again?

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Keeping these questions in-mind, the day is about love instead of a day that creates more waste, honoring our sacred love for the earth.

I plan on sharing our whole process after the wedding and will be excited to give more of the specifics,  but for now, I don't want to give too much away! 

Photos By Memry 

Green Dress: Reformation

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Handmade crown from my parents backyard :) 

Its All About The Find

To follow up on my last post talking about fair trade and sustainable shopping , I want to share my story on this mindset and give some tips as well!

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The phrase “It's all about the find” has become one of my mottos in life. My mindset with shopping use to be  “I have a place to go, I need new shoes, a dress, and a jacket”. I would head to the closest Forever 21, Zara, or do overnight shipping online. I admittedly became obsessed with buying new and buying often. I truly felt that in order for me to feel my best, I needed to have the latest trend or look as  polished as possible. However, after some time, something in me shifted.  I started noticing the overwhelming amount of wardrobe choices actually caused a creative blockage because I just had a lot of clothes lacking their own story, as opposed to timeless staples. I began purging pieces  and in that process, I discovered online resale websites where I could make money for my finds.

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Then I started a habit- I would only buy something new if I sold something old. That propelled me into a completely new way of shopping

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I began to discover  the incredible finds at local second hand stores and  vintage stores. I became more aware that  instead of buying in the moment I could wait and  buy when I found something truly timeless and special. I became more patient and intentional about taking time to find the right thing.

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THEN my world was rocked, I watched the documentary True Cost and realized the devastation that the fashion industry has had on our world. I felt 2 things when the movie ended: 1. Ashamed for being in the fashion industry and supporting fast fashion. 2. While I know that fashion is a part of my soul, I knew I had to take steps so that I was not part of the problem.

Below are some ways you can incorporate this lifestyle easily into your life!

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  1. Shop second hand- most of these stores only take slightly worn pieces that are either fast fashion or designers (pro tip: do not feel bad if you find a fast fashion piece at a second hand store and want it! It’s way better than it ending up in a landfill or trash island somewhere.)

  2. Shop vintage- vintage means something that is at least 20 years older than the current decade. To find an amazing vintage piece you want to look at the label, its really easy to tell when a label looks aged or out-dated. You also want to look at where it is made. A lot of great vintage is USA made (like denim, which is my favorite vintage staple) and that is always really exciting.

  3. Supporting your friends’ small businesses- I have a lot of friends who are making everything on their own buying local and selling. Either suggest a trade to get the pieces or purchase them! These hand dyed silk tops are from my friend Allison who hand dyes natural fabrics like silk and cotton with flowers and plants HOW MAGICAL IS THAT?!

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Clothing:

Black trousers, belt & camel jacket-Vintage

Green PantsReformation 

Brown Hat-Second Hand (no label) 

Boots-Restored second hand Sam Edelman

Hand dyed silk topsAllison Lei

Photos byCasey Fyfe

Do I have To Wear Spandex?

I am a huge advocate for recycled fashion, specifically vintage and consignment. I love the find of a great piece and the story that comes with it. I don't want to project any kind of negativity around the yoga-wear industry, but I have had a hard time connecting with the silhouettes and materials that are often found within yoga apparel. This got me thinking, what can we wear to yoga and in our spiritual practices that maybe feels a little more unique or individualistic? Once you think about it, there are endless possibilities. I am now on a journey to search for garments that I feel great wearing, can do yoga in, and are sustainable, fair-trade, organic or recycled.  

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When I found these vintage linen culottes from a local flea market, I was so excited because I knew I would not only be able to wear them to yoga, but also dress them up for other life activities!

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The top is also linen and a piece from Reformation. Reformation is one of the amazing clothing companies that is  leading the way in the fair-trade clothing movement. This way of shopping has created a more minimalistic and conscious way of looking at the clothes I wear and has expanded my creativity.

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As I experiment with my wardrobe and begin to expand this practice with others, I look forward to what the future holds!

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Clothing from: Reformation & Vintage

Photos by: Casey Fyfe

Practicing Santosha

In a society that pushes us to always be learning, striving and busy, what does it look like to simply be content with who we are and what we have?  What would being content with ourselves look like if we could take time each day to simply be? To live present in our surroundings, remove judgment of ourselves and others,  and to recognize all that we have right in front of us. How could contentment  help us to connect deeper with those around us? Would it look more bright? More kind? More joyus? More full of love?

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Santosha-  in Sanskrit translates to "complete or content" studied as one of the 4 branches of the Niyamas (observances). Read more about the 8 limbed system here. The concept of contentment is not typically something that is readily talked about or practiced in western society but is crucial in finding balance and peace within ourselves.

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To begin bringing more Santosha into our day, start with this simple meditation, saying: “I am content.  I am grateful for what I have and for what I don’t have.  I learn from the dark and the light that life brings me.  I honor the light in myself and others.  I refrain from criticism and faultfinding.  I accept life just the way it is.  I love my life.  I honor and practice loving kindness, and compassion.” When you feel your mind focusing too much on the past and future, escaping from the present, bring yourself back with this meditation.

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Through this shift in perception, we can begin to train our minds to see reality a little bit different. In practising this Niyama, I have begun to already feel more joy and peace coming into my life!

Clothing from: www.tobi.com

Photos by Felicia Lasala